Because life is a total asshat, my husband’s testicular cancer has recurred. He’s been cancer free since 2012, but it was discovered in his abdomen last month.
So now he has to go through chemo, which I had heard is a bitch…and yeah it is. He went for 5 days in a row and felt progressively crappier as the week went on. Extreme nausea, fatigue, and, oh, pain in his neck, shoulders, and arm on the side of his mediport. Apparently it’s messing up his blood flow because it shifted…so they will need to go up through his hip to adjust it. Baller.
Now I have to figure out how I can he helpful to him. We have an eight-month-old girl to keep alive, so I can certainly take on more of that responsibility. I can make sure he takes his meds, drinks water, and gets some nutrition. I can provide emotional support.
I guess that’s all a spouse can do, but it never seems like enough—since what we really want to do is make the suffering (and the freaking cancer) go away.
I welcome any advice in the comments about getting through this and helping your spouse beat this unimaginably terrible disease.
kept the flowers 
My heart aches for you both having to go through this life threatening (and changing) trial. Please know that we’re here for you and love you so much. I know you will both come through and be stronger and changed from the experience. Wish I could take your pain away….
Read up on essiac and take it. If he can’t handle the taste of it in a tea, stuff the herb powder in empty gel caps. You can get both things on Amazon. It helped me. Eat green leafy veggies raw 24/7, 3 or more meals/day.Start now! Visualize yourselves growing old together and seeing your daughter graduate from college and mean it.
Thanks so much for the tip!